Following My LDS Surrogate Experience and More!


Following my LDS Surrogate Experience and More! I hope to share my experience and perspective with you. My adventures starts back in September of 2011, and I hope you can follow along and be a part of my journey! I follow one successful and one unsuccessful attempt at gestational surrogacy. Also, make sure to visit my Intended Mother's blogs (with a link to the right) The purpose of my blog is to educate people all over the world about gestational surrogacy and a little about the LDS Church's position regarding surrogacy. If you are somewhere in the process, whether you are an intended parent, a surrogate, or you plan to become one soon, I hope my blog can help put some perspective in your life. Please feel free to leave comments. I have the opportunity to be involved with such a unique and special experience. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, I also plan to express my love for the Gospel throughout my scribblings. Thank You for visiting!

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Surrogacy Video & Some Overdue Updates!

This is the video Hope's hubby put together shortly after Spencer was born. It's beautiful, and you're almost guaranteed to cry! I was feeling a little sentimental tonight, but it finally got me to update my blog! If you wanna see the video in a bigger screen, look at hope's blog (on the right side of the screen)


After we left the hospital, Clark made a comment that totally caught me off guard. 
He said, “I sure would have liked to hold the little guy.”

Oh. My. Goodness.

In all the excitement, we never passed the baby to Clark! He never spoke up, and I was just so involved with how excited Hope and her family were, I totally spaced it. I told Hope. And she had the same reaction as me. She felt terrible. She said, “Why didn’t he speak up!!”

His response was, “They have been waiting for this little guy for years now, and I didn’t want to take him away from them.”

Which was totally silly! Everyone said so. But so so sweet. Hope said that she was so focused on trying to make sure I wasn’t made to feel like  they were gonna take the baby and split, she didn’t even think about Clark. We all felt so bad, and he had been so great the entire time.

So they planned a special evening to come over and let Uncle Clark see baby Spencer. It was so great. He held him and bounced him and talked to him. I loved every minute of it. I love my husband <3

That same night (before they made their way back to Illinois, Hope and her husband gave me one final gift.

It was this beautiful picture frame with our pictures, and a Poem that Hope’s hubby wrote, along with some input from her.

That’s right. They wrote this themselves, and I cried and cried after I read it.  It hangs in my bedroom next to my bed. I sure love them <3

This is what it says…


When you ask how you came to be
And why not by the normal way
On how you joined our family
This is what we’re going to say:

Four years of seeing life and death
For the chance to bring just one
Those failures left us helpless
Nearly thinking we’d be done.

In our shortcomings and heartbreak
To start your path to infancy.
God sent an angel for your sake
To bear that yoke of pregnancy

This new and inspired dear friend
Whose Christ-like actions brought you here
Without complaining for this end
Sacrificing comfort, health and care.

She provided what we could not
She asked if she could sacrifice
The very thing that we had sought:
The Hope to sustain your gift of life.

So if you feel that there’s another
Angel to love and revere
Thank your surrogate mother,
And God who sent you two here.

Hope has sent me lots and lots of pictures in the last 3 months. Can you believe it?! He's 3 months old! Here are two of them :)

Spencer was blessed just this last Sunday! They finally got his official Birth Certificate. He is SO handsome and I wish I could have been there!

Quick surgery insert... 

As most of you know, about 3 weeks after Spencer was born, i was tested for Carpal Tunnel and had surgery on July 28th or something like that. I still hadn't fully recovered from the deliver and the big move. It was a rotten way to spend my summer. I had to do both wrists at the same time since I was losing my insurance in just a matter of days. I was in braces for weeks, stitches were so painful to take out, I was literally handicapped and helpless. I received so much help from my wonderful husband, my family, and my ward & friends. It was difficult with a BUSY two year old. My hands still don't have full strength, and my scars itch all the time. They are sore and the dr said I will probably still be sore for about 8-9 months. I will take it over that terrible horrible carpal tunnel. That was my short version. Have I ever given the short version on anything? Love you all... ;)